Outside of the marriage context, can you think of any other rational basis, reason, for a state using sexual orientation as a factor in denying homosexuals benefits or imposing burdens on them? Is there any other rational decision-making that the government could make? Denying them a job, not granting them benefits of some sort, any other decision?
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| — | Sonia Sotomayor, pretty much nailing it (via danforth) |
Finally.
Well, so much for that notion of me writing more. It’s still something I’m working on. But - SO MUCH has happened in my life since… oh, well, the last entry. Basically December. The biggest venture thus far has been MY NEW JOB!! Yes, I can (and have!) stopped trolling indeed.com every 5 minutes applying for jobs I don’t even want! The greatest blessing came to me via a voicemail while I was substitute teaching (which I really hated). My old boss from the CMU Bookstore called to let me know about a job opening in the store, a new position they were creating to manage the expanding desire for us to carry books for CMU’s online and global campus classes. This is where it all began.
I’ll skip the minute details (the wait was killer and I’m really impatient). Lindsay did a great job attempting to distract me through the interview process and the wait for the call either way. She took me to the movies, went shopping, played games… and then, the day finally arrived when I got the call that said I got the job! I’m not kidding when I tell you I fell to the floor and tried to keep my composure as my new boss offered me this opportunity. I eagerly accepted and Lindsay was in the kitchen ready to pop the champagne. And we did. Even though it was like 11am. It was the best thing that could have happened, and it really did save us. In the month and a half since I’ve been working, I’ve really grown to love the work I’m doing. I am so appreciative of the great work environment and amazing benefits. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. It’s Sunday, and I’m not dreading going in to work tomorrow. I’m actually looking forward to it.
And as much as this job is everything I want in a career, people (and sometimes even myself) have and will question “but, I thought you wanted to teach…?” The truth is, I don’t know if I ever really loved teaching. It’s a noble profession… and 100% underappreciated. I know that I am at least somewhat good at it, and could tolerate it, but there are so many things that really detract from the few things I like about it. School politics, job (in)security, low wages, average benefits, being fired for being gay - just to name a few. I think I fell in love with the fact that you can help so many people and change lives, but I know I wouldn’t love working in that environment with all of the other things.
Instead, I have a great job that I actually really enjoy. My coworkers know about Lindsay, ask about how she is, and have no problem with it. The University offers her my benefits after 18 months of living together, which includes FREE TUITION. And, if we have children and they are biologically hers, they get my benefits too. How great is that?? I have amazing benefits, there is no drama, and I really enjoy the people that I work with. This career is exactly what I want and need. And some people may think that being a textbook manager isn’t glamorous or noble… but I don’t need their validation. I am excited about making this my career. It will be as glamorous and noble as I decide to make it.
Ok, I’ll step off my soapbox. I’m just incredibly happy, thankful, and excited for all there is to come. And maybe writing more doesn’t mean I’m fulfilled and happy. I do like writing, but it turns out when you are fulfilled and happy (and employed) you have much less time. So the few days you do have free are spent with people, not alone, clicking away at the keyboard. And that’s okay. That’s the way it should be, at least for me.
You get in life what you have the courage to ask for
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